MEET RESISTANCE HEAD-ON. BUILD TRUST & CONNECTION.
Incidentally, if you want to empower someone, show an interest in them. Show them that you value their opinion.
Want to disempower someone? Don’t let them express themself. Shut them down.
Sadly, in a school and work setting, people are used to receiving short answers. Or worse, made to feel ashamed for asking.
Addressing a question or concern until completion builds trust.
Incompletion destroys it.
HOW REAL LEARNING ACTUALLY WORKS: 3 THINGS NO ONE EVER TOLD YOU
“…two things I’ve learned about change in connection with human behavior:
The best way I can help someone make a change is to encourage them to fully embrace the whole of who they are.
Once they fully experience themselves as they are, integration and change occurs naturally.”
THE OBSTACLE IS RESILIENCE: 3 TIPS TO CREATE LASTING CHANGE
To create lasting change, it helps to have a clear vision of what you’re moving toward - before you can let go of something.
Imagine you’re holding on to an unloved job because of the good salary it pays…
It would be A LOT easier to let go of if you had a vision of a better-paying job that fires you up.
Some behavior changes require getting knocked down with a bad virus (see blog post); others call for external motivation or someone to help you eat that elephant.